Tag : I'm Infected With Blogivitis

I have not been diligently reading blogs thus nearly missed out this tag from Cheryl. In my opinion, I have yet to be termed as infected, maybe had a touch and go sorta situation. As you can see, my recent postings were fewer and far between - been unwell, been busy and getting busier nearing year end.

Other reasonings - I would admit that I'm infected when the degree of my addiction comes close to Harry Potter or Naruto (a japanese anime). So there, I am not yet infected but am getting there - once I am will do one special 'bling bling' posting announcing my Blogivitis.

Hee hee, no one else to tag, as far as I know, WJ & Jazz already infected ;)

Tag : SAHM or FTWM

Since I am tagged by Cheryl on this topic i.e. to be a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom) or a FTWM (Full Time Working Mother) let me put down my thoughts down below and weigh the positive and negative of each. I have not really gave this much thought before this.

1) In one of my earlier entries, I have written my thoughts on motherhood, at our current income level, we may not be able to give our child a head start, thus I will choose to be FTWM.

2) In Malaysia, the price of child care and option to employ a maid are affordable options, my choice will still be FTWM.

3) I also grew up with my mom being a SAHM but there are limitations here namely financial freedom, choice is still FTWM.

4) A SAHM will of course have the luxury of seeing the changes in our children on a constant basis, but if a FTWM have the luxury of having her parents of parents-in-law care for their child, it would also be a favourable arrangement. And FTWM can invest in technology i.e. web cam, 3G handphones or what not to monitor and keep in touch with her treasure :-)

5) It is only fair, for a woman to contribute to improving the economic status of family (own, parents etc.) and country. So FTWM again.

6) If I am living elsewhere i.e. where childcare costs vis-à-vis my income and doing the math will be more expensive, I will be a SAHM. But if that is not the case, it'll be FTWM.

7) A FTWM can also exert positive influence on her children if she is able to manage/balance a career and be an attentive mother. It is not how much time spent per se but the perception of your child, how involved you are in their life, studies etc. (hee hee, my thesis was something along this line i.e. perception of maternal parenting behaviour, academic achievement etc.)

8) Although once in a while, I will tell hubby I want to be SAHM but I am not 100% sure I can stand being idle. I am not saying that being a SAHM is any less challenging, I guess, I would like to have a meaningful career and when I have reached the stage that I feel that I have achieved something in life, I may opt then to be SAHM.

*****Instructions*****
i) If you are given a choice, SAHM or FTWM? Give at least 3 reasons.

ii) Include your name in the thread below

iii) Tag 3 person

List:
Immomsdaughter prefers to be a SAHM
Miche prefers to be a SAHM.
Msau prefers to be a PTWM.
Everydayhealy prefers to be a SAHM.
Jazzmint prefers FTWM.
Cheryl prefers to be a FTWM but will consider SAHM.

Just Cheryl prefers to be FTWM

3 persons to tag:

Woan Jiun - no one else to tag leh (u can fulfil 3 tags with one post) ;-)
MomofHayward - thanks for reading my blog ;-)

Tutiger - thanks for reading my blog ;-)

Tagged - Eight (8) random facts about myself

Just found out got tagged by Woan Jiun and this being my maiden tag, not exactly sure what to do but I will try my best ;-) After reading WJ's post, sort of figured out how to go about, so here goes. First I will state the rules of the game/tag as follows:-

i) Each player starts with eight random facts/habits about themselves.


ii) People who are tagged need to write their own blog about their eight things and post these rules.


iii) At the end of your blog, you need to choose people to get tagged and list their names.


iv) Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them they’re tagged, and to read your blog.

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Eight facts about me are as listed below in no particular order:-


Ichi (1) - I dislike my chinese name since young after countless merciless teasing. In mandarin and hokkien (my mother tongue) it sounds like curry (not to say I dislike curry one bit). There were other nicknames that I do care to repeat again. I prefer to introduce myself as Cheryl & thank goodness my daddy had the sense to put it in my birth cert thus giving me a legitimate choice to insist to be called Cheryl.


Ni (2) - I did not instantly fall in love with my hubby when we were classmates - in fact, dread the fact that I was getting attracted to him because there was this other girl (my classmate as well) who were gaga over him and her close buddies also gave me a hard time


San (3) - I became a librarian in school for the privileged use of the locker. The added perk(s) - hubby was the Head Librarian. But as listed in (2) above, I became one not because of him :-p


She (4) - I have a driving license but I cannot drive or rather do not dare to drive in KL. I keep dreaming that I will crash into the traffic lights.


Go (5) - I can't believe that I am with my current organisation coming to 4 years now


Roku (6) - I have been told I am not good at disguising my feelings/emotions (can read me like a book). Recently improved coz when my mentor told me something, I did not show any emotion and he was like, you know already? Nope, I didn't know beforehand.


Shichi (7) - I hate washing dishes and ironing clothes. So I bring my clothes home to my mummy's maid to iron and as for the dishes, take turns with hubby to wash them when I do cook.


Hachi (8) - The things that I used to want to own (Swatch watch, Baby-G's by Casio), now that I can afford it (years ago)- it no longer matters. Or in other words, requirements change as I grow older.


There, first "tagged" done and I am passing this on to


Vivian, Sze & Naomi (a fellow forum member and chat mate from Malaysiabrides forum)
Ann - The unexpressed (pal from school)

This is a clothes tag removed from my one and only Paul Frank garment & I'm falling in love with Julius and his friends (so kawaii). Saw some button badges at Avenue K with this cute monkey and bought 8 of them.